Nuwe Finesse blog

Hallou julle

Ek het ‘n paar mooi dinge om met julle te deel!

Die Here is vir my BAIE goed..en Hy’s vol verrassings! Hy het gemeen ek het wel of ‘n formele werk nodig, of ‘n tydelike vryskut skryfgeleentheid!

Ek het ‘n onverwagte email ontvang vanaf Goedvoel Finesse tydskrif, wat gesê het ‘hulle het op my blogs afgekom en wou weet of ek sou belangstel om vir hulle op ‘n weeklikse basis te blog.’ Ek was so verbaas hieroor dat ek “health and beauty blogs” gaan “google” het om te sien of my blog se naam dalk verskyn op die eerste paar blaaie van Google en hulle so op my afgekom het. Dit was eers toe ek egter net “health and beauty” intik, dat ek vind Annien’s Health and Beauty verskyn as die ENIGSTE blog op die eerste bladsy van Google op hierdie stadium! Nog meer verbaas… Julle weet self hoeveel blogs daar bestaan!

Ek kry ongelukkig nie eens tyd om gereeld vir JULLE te skryf nie, so ek het besluit om sommer my weeklikse blog aan hulle, ook sommer aan julle deur te stuur.

Indien jy wil, kan jy egter gaan loer na Voelgoed se webblad, en ook ‘n kykie gee na al die ander bloggers se skryfstukke by www.voelgoed.co.za/blogs

Die tweede goeie stukkie opbeur nuus wat ek met julle wil deel, is dat ek ‘n wonderlike vrou ontmoet het, wat ‘n ‘life coach’ is, en kanker het. DIT is nou nie wat mens “opbeur” nie, maar as julle nie weet nie – skynbaar ontmoet ‘n mens net ‘n paar maal in jou lewe daardie spesiale persone in jou lewe – jou ‘solemates’, daardie mense wat dikwels jou lewe in ‘n ander rigting help inslaan. Dalk ook die mense wat jou by die poorte van die hemel kom haal eendag. Nou ja, so ‘n persoon sou ek waarskynlik in hierdie ‘lifecoach’ kon vind.

Wat sy onder andere se, is dat “as sy haar lewe kon oorhê, sy weer kanker sou wou gehad het. Want met die kanker het sy dinge ervaar wat sy nie andersins sou kon ervaar het nie. Dit was HAAR “journey”. Meer hieromtrent later…

Hier is ‘n kykie dan na my eerste Blog aan Voelgoed, Finesse. Ek het die blog ‘n bietjie aangevul, so jy kry sowaar die meer volledige weergawe.

Njoy!

“Ek dink nie ek is net hier om dié te inspireer wat dieselfde deurgemaak het as ek nie, maar ook die gewone mens om te WAARDEER wat hy het.

Om die beste JY te wees in die spesifieke seisoen van jou lewe. Om in die OOMBLIK te leef. DANKBAAR vir die klein dingetjies. Wat nie aandag gee aan nietighede nie, maar aan wat rêrig belangrik is in die lewe.

Om al daardie bekommernisse te laat staan oor die oënskynlike belangrike klein goedjies. (Wat nie beteken jy gee nie om oor die REGTIG belangrike klein goedjies nie!) Om jou te leer om stilte te waardeer en om niks te doen, te sê of te luister na enige iets wanneer dinge rof gaan en wanneer jy God se stem wil hoor nie. Om sover as wat jy kan, op God te probeer wag, STIL te word en te luister na wat GOD sê en nie die wêreld of ander mense nie. Die eerste ding wat ek sou leer is dat jou IDENTITEIT nie lê in jou TALENTE nie, want dit kan oornag van jou af weggeneem word!

Ek is hier na my ongeluk om te deel, wat ek glo, nuutgevonde,  God geinspireerde denke en vars insigte is. ‘n Bonatuurlike salwing.

Net soos myself, gaan ek probeer om jou te help om jouself op te tel, jou ken te lig, te glimlag en vorentoe te gaan. Om die beste van jouself te maak, en persoonlik te groei. Jouself te ontwikkel, van binne en buite.

Dit is soveel moeiliker om GESOND en MOOI te voel en met SELFVERTROUE op te tree terwyl ek pyn verduur, fisiese balans kort en met fisiese gebreke moet saamleef… Pyn oorskadu alles. Al jou fokus word gerig op fisiese pyn selfs meer as jou fokus op finansies wanneer die ookal opraak! En mense sien nie pyn nie. Die moeilikste persoon met wie jy dan nou voel jy moet saamleef word ongelukkig jouself. Ek het te veel begin dink aan wat ek nie kan doen wat ek voorheen gedoen het nie, of wat ek SOU nou kon doen, as die ongeluk nie gebeur het nie. Soveel drome is vernietig.

.. Dis maklik om te sê, ek is nie die BESTE SELF wat ek was nie, en sal nooit in staat wees om dit weer te wees nie!

So hoe maak ek dan die meeste van my huidige situasie? Maak ek die beste van myself of maak ek vrede met myself?

Don Piper, wat ‘n soortgelyke besering as ek in ‘n motor ongeluk opgedoen het, skryf in ‘90 minutes in Heaven,’

“ Some things happen to us from which we never recover. I wasted a lot of time thinking how I used to be healthy and had no physical limitations. I mourned over my inability to do certain things again. I thought for the thousandth time of things I would never do again. For example, I’ll never be able to kneel so that I can be at a child’s level again, because my back and legs won’t give me the ability to do that. I can’t start the car with my right hand, and can’t reach for the change with my right hand. The best I can do is reach out across my body with my left arm. It must look strange, and I get a few odd looks. While neither of these examples is particularly dramatic, they are nonetheless reminders that sometimes things we take for granted every day can be taken from us permanently and suddenly, we’re changed forever. In my mind, I’d reconstruct how life ought to be, but in reality, I knew my life would never be the same. I had to adjust and accept my physical limits as part of my new normal.  If we’re wise, we won’t continue to go back to the way things were (we can’t anyway). We must instead forget the old standard and accept a “new normal”..The good old days weren’t that good – we tend to forget the negative parts of those days. Most of us want to go back to a simpler, healthier, or happier time. We can’t, but we still keep dreaming about how we once was. We also tend to forget the negative experiences and go back to recapture pleasent events. No matter how much I try to idealize it, that part of my life is over and I would never be healthy or strong again. The only thing for me to do is to discover the new normal. Yes, there are things I will never be able to do again, I don’t like that and may even hate it, but that doesn’t change the way things are. The sooner I make peace with that fact and accept the way things are, the sooner I’ll be able to live in peace and enjoy my new normalcy. Somebody gave me an article to read. It’s about a young man who lost his sight. He went through an incredably bitter, depressive time. A Friend told him, ‘You just need to get past this. I want you to make a list of all the stuff/things you can still do. Simple things like “I can still smell flowers.” I want you to make the list as extensive as you can.’ Time past and the blind man changed so radically that his friend asked, ‘Tell me what made you change.’He answered he decided to do all the stuff he could. The more he thought about it, the fewer limitations he saw. There were thousands of things he could still do – and he said he’s going to do them for the rest of his life. He appeared smiling and peaceful, and seemed in a much better frame of mind. He was working on his list and there were about a thousand things on the list already. Some of them were simple. ‘None of them were big things, but there were thousands of things he could still do’, he thought. “This is exactly what I needed, not mourning, pining, and going back over the way things used to be or what i used to have that i don’t have anymore. Instead, I have to discover what I have now, not only to celebrate but also to recognize I’m not helpless. I realized I had more going for me than I thought, I had focused so heavily on my losses that I forgotten what I had left. And I hadn’t realized the opportunities I might never have tried otherwise.

I’m not going to worry about what I can’t do. I’m going to do what I can do well I’ve got to get on with my life. Whatever I have, I’m going to use it and magnify it to the max.

I’m running out of time, but so is everyone else. I suppose I’m more conscious of time than some people are for two reasons: I lost a big chunk of my life because of the accident, and I know we don’t get to stay long on this earth – something we all know from reading the Bible.”

Ek het my blog beeindig met,

SKOONHEID  IS OM DIE BESTE MOONTLIKE WEERGAWE VAN JOUSELF TE WEES,

BINNE EN BUITE.

As ek dit kan doen, soveel te meer jy.

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